Throughout my life, in all seasons, encouragement from the people around me has impacted me more than anything else. When I'm struggling in school or with a situation in life, a kind text from a friend can change my whole perspective. Because of this I have developed a love and passion for using my words for good.
When the people around you are struggling, it is so easy to feel overwhelmed and powerless to help, but I want you to know it is so much easier than you think. Small, thoughtful gestures can often have much more of an impact than huge events or celebrations. People simply need to know that they are loved and cared for, and you have so much power to make this happen.
When I want to do good for someone, I can often get overwhelmed and intimidated and end up doing nothing at all, so I have come up with a list of practical ways we can encourage and uplift the people around us:
- When a friend is having a bad day, surprise them with their favorite coffee or drink
- If you think about someone throughout your day, text them. Let them know you're thinking of them
- Pay attention to people's strengths and what they do well, and tell them. Don't let what they do go unnoticed
- If you're out shopping with a friend and they notice something they love, but don't buy it, get it for them and leave it at their door with a note telling them how much you love them and how much they deserve this gift
- If a friend is going through a hard time, take her flowers and be willing to listen, but also be understanding if she doesn't want to talk.
There are a few things to keep in mind to be an effective encourager : be quiet and be consistent.
Be Quiet : There are two sides of this. First, be silent. Listen. You will never be able to fully care for the people around you if you don't even know whats going on in their life. Listen when they speak and always be watching for opportunities to encourage. Next, be quiet when doing good, not announcing everything you do. Your motivation should always be to uplift, not to be praised.
Be Consistent : With so much uncertainty and change in our lives, we need people we can depend on . Be that for others. A note of encouragement is helpful and necessary, but it is not always enough on its own. A quick text once a week or meeting for dinner once a month can make a huge difference.
While it would be great to be able to encourage all of our friends all of the time, it just not possible. Instead of getting overwhelmed by the amount of people and options, we can choose one person to focus on and encourage them, pray for them, check on them, and serve them. We can't change the whole world in one day, but we can daily change the world for one.
We can all Do One Thing to encourage those around us and use our words to do good.